The Child Welfare Service prefers mum to dad

The Child Welfare Service prefers mum to dad

If mummy is an addict or suffers from psychological dysfunctions, the Norwegian Child Welfare Service takes extensive measures. If daddy has similar problems, he is asked to leave his family.

The Child Welfare Service often fails to inform fathers who don't live with their children when a child welfare case is opened. This may imply that the best of the child is neglected.(Illustration: www.colourbox.com)

“Fathers experience old-fashioned attitudes in their encounter with the Child Welfare Service. The mothers are still regarded as the most important caregivers, while fathers who approach the Child Welfare Service with notes of concern about the mother feel that they are not taken seriously,” says Anita Skårstad Storhaug.

She recently defended her PhD thesis, which shows that the Child Welfare Service to a much higher degree facilitates for the mother – child relation than for father – child.

Fathers who approach the Child Welfare Service because they believe the mother’s behaviour may be harmful to the child’s welfare, often feel that they are not believed. Furthermore, if they don’t live with the child they experience that the Child Welfare Service fails to contact them when a child welfare case is opened.

Storhaug’s PhD thesis is based on interviews with 15 fathers of children who have been under the attention of the Child Welfare Service and 4 focus group discussions with a total of 14 caseworkers in the Child Welfare Service. Additionally, her thesis is based on the survey Det nye barnevernet (“The New Child Welfare Service”), in which 715 parents who had experienced encounters with the Child Welfare Service participated.

Gender neutral in theory, not in practice

First, the caseworkers from the Child Welfare Service often claimed that they did not differentiate between fathers and mothers when handling cases.

“Then they started to go into details. They said that they found it important to involve the father, but that “we are confronted with reality”. The caseworkers had many arguments that justified a neglect of the fathers. Consequently, the father is only involved in cases where he appears as an asset in the first place,” says Storhaug.

Thus, measures are not taken to involve the father unless he is not already well integrated in the child’s life. Furthermore, the mother’s descriptions are attached great significance. If she puts the father in a bad light, her words are often taken as face value by the caseworker who decides not to contact him. 

“In practice, there is undoubtedly a difference in how the Child Welfare Service treats fathers and mothers. A typical example is in cases where mother and father live together and the mother becomes mentally ill. In such cases, the Child Welfare Service will take measures. But if the father is ill there is much less concern. The Child Welfare Service then expects the mother to compensate and protect the child.”  

Confusion regarding the legislation

Half of the children who are under the attention of the Child Welfare Service live with their mother only or with their mother and a stepfather. Many of the children have limited contact with their biological fathers. Involving these fathers in their child’s life is particularly demanding when the mother is struggling.

“Time pressure is stated as one of the reasons why the caseworkers fail to involve the fathers in such cases. Moreover, many caseworkers are uncertain about the legislation, and whether they are allowed to involve a parent who is not responsible for the child’s daily care,” says Storhaug.

This confusion is a result of inconsistencies between The Child Welfare Act and The Children Act. The Children Act says that also parents without parental responsibility are entitled to information regarding the child’s situation. However, information regarding the other parent may be confidential.

“It can be difficult to differentiate between information regarding the child and its home situation, and information regarding the other parent in child welfare cases. For instance, information about the mother’s mental health is confidential.”

“At the same time, this is highly significant for the child and its needs. It may therefore be of importance that the father is informed and given the opportunity to help the child. But many caseworkers choose not to inform the father when they are uncertain whether the situation is subject to confidentiality or not,” says the researcher.  

Neglecting the father is harmful for the child

“Is it possible that the attitudes displayed by the Child Welfare Service may be based on realities rather than on old-fashioned attitudes towards gender roles?”

“Of course the Child Welfare Service works with many cases in which the fathers affect their children negatively. This should be respected, but my experience is that their attitudes are unreflected. Negative experiences with some fathers shouldn’t cause negative expectations of fathers who may in fact be an asset to the child’s life.”


Anita Skårstad Storhaug. (Photo: private)

“But it is equally important that the Child Welfare Service support the fathers whose behaviour towards the child is problematic. When a case worker concludes that the father is irrelevant or that he shouldn’t be a part of the child’s life, no measures are taken to help the father,” says Storhaug.  

The researcher is familiar with several cases where the father is ordered to move out of the house because the Child Welfare Service believes that the mother has better chances of retaining responsibility for the child if the father is gone. Then, with the father gone, the Child Welfare Service doesn’t stay in touch with him. But it is quite possible that he keeps in touch with mother and child even though he lives at a different address.  

“Consequently, the child doesn’t receive the kind of protection it is entitled to. In other words, it is of vital importance that the Child Welfare Service also keeps in contact with the fathers who don’t see their children or who are not supposed to see their children,” says the researcher.

Almost only female case workers

There are only two men among the 14 caseworkers in Storhaug’s material. This reflects the low percentage of men in the service. The Child Welfare Service wants to recruit more men, but they have a long way to go. 

“My material is too limited to say anything about the difference between male and female caseworkers. But of course the caseworker’s gender may be significant for how they relate to mothers and fathers, and for how they consider the father’s impact on the child’s life,” says Storhaug.

Some of the caseworkers who had been in the Child Welfare Service for a long time claimed to see an increasing awareness concerning the fathers’ significance. This is along the same lines as in society in general. Others said that they had never discussed or thought about these issues until they were confronted with the researcher’s questions.

“Hopefully the level of reflection will increase as fathers generally become increasingly involved in their children’s lives. But the fact that so few of the children in these cases live with their father, and perhaps never have, is a challenge. Thus, even though the dialogue may change, the practice may remain the same.” 

Even dad thinks that mother is best

“When the fathers spoke about the Child Welfare Service’ attitudes, it was important for them to emphasise that they were good parents,” says the researcher.

However, she also found that many fathers regarded themselves as an emergency solution.

“Many were of the opinion that mothers are better with children. They claimed that mothers show a more tender care, and that they are better at understanding the child’s needs. Then they emphasised that this applied to healthy mothers, not the mentally ill or addicted mother of their own child. However, it was not clear whether they spoke about mothers in general or about their own (ex)partner when she was healthy or clean.”

According to the fathers, they regarded themselves as better at setting limits and at playing with the children.

“This view on mothers versus fathers is reflected in the caseworkers’ statements. They want the fathers to be the ones who set the limits and bring the children along to activities,” says the researcher. 

“The child welfare service should involve both parents”

Storhaug has some clear opinions on what it will take to increase the quality of the Child Welfare Service – for the good of the child.

“Routines should be introduced to secure the involvement of both parents – unless considerations strongly indicate that one of them should be kept away from the child. Measures should take the child’s entire living situation into consideration.” 

As a matter of standard procedure, the parent who does not live with the child should be informed when a child welfare case is opened.

“But there are of course numerous discretionary assessments that need to be made in these cases. Routines and procedures can’t secure everything. Therefore, there is need for a higher level of reflection among the child welfare workers. Attitudes towards mothers versus fathers should be subject to courses and discussions in the Child Welfare Service,” Storhaug concludes.

Translated by Cathinka Dahl Hambro